Funerals and Memorials

Humanist funerals are a celebration of life, and I create personal non-religious funeral services to remember the special moments in the life of your loved one just the way that you want it.

We can celebrate the fun times you shared, their relationships with family and friends, their personality with all their unique likes and dislikes, and all those other important things that made your loved who they were.

Whether you choose a service that is filled with songs, fun anecdotes and readings, or quiet reflection and poems, or a combination of these, I will work with you to create a special memory for your final goodbye.

Creating the funeral service

As a non-religious celebration of life, your loved one’s funeral or memorial service can be made up of any words, songs and poems or readings you choose. And it can take place in a crematorium like Randalls Park, a natural burial ground such as the beautiful Clandon Wood, a cemetery, or anywhere else you choose. I work across Surrey, Sussex, Hampshire, south London and other areas on request.

If you have an idea of what you would like included in the service, I will design the ceremony around this or, I am happy to make suggestions to suit your family and your loved one.

Here’s an example outline for a service which would last around 20 minutes, which is the time allocated for services by most crematoria:

  • Welcome and introductory words about your loved one
  • Thoughts on life and death and remembering the person who has died
  • Poem or reading by a family member or friend
  • Tribute to your loved one describing their life, character and passions
  • Quiet reflection for personal goodbyes accompanied by music
  • Poem or reading by a family member or friend
  • Saying your final farewell with the Committal
  • Closing words

Services provided by Silver Bee Ceremonies

My fee is £220 and this includes:

  • Personal funeral service based on your wishes delivered by me on the day
  • Support with writing your own testimonial should you wish to do so
  • Suggestions for poems, music and readings
  • Face to face meeting, normally at your home, so I can learn all about your loved one
  • Draft version of the service script for you to ensure the details are correct and to make changes as you wish
  • Presentation version of the funeral service script as a keep sake
  • All travel for meetings and on the day within 40 mile radius of KT11
  • Professional indemnity and public liability insurance
  • Backing from Humanists UK and an alternative Humanist celebrant in the unlikely event that I am unable to perform your ceremony as planned

Words from a few of my families

“Thank you for all your work leading up to, and during, our Mum’s memorial service. We were very pleased with how it went, and feel that our Mum would have approved. Other guests also gave very positive feedback — one of my nieces said it was the best funeral she had ever attended.

“Personally, I really appreciated your approach. You were thorough, sensitive and understanding of our needs. You took on board the information we gave you, and created the kind of upbeat, positive and celebratory service our Mum would have wanted. You were also easy to deal with, organised and timely.”
Slater Family, August 2018, Clandon Wood

Getting in touch

Stephanie Forster Humanist Funeral Celebrant Surrey

Please contact me on the number below for an initial chat and then we can arrange to meet up to talk about your loved one and the sort of service you would like for them. Alternatively you can ask your funeral director to make the initial contact with me.

Tel: 07786 268446